This is something that has to do with building healthy personal boundaries.
It has to do with allowing other people to mature.
It has to do with you being mature.
It has to do with NOT building dysfunctional, emotionally-depending relationships.
It’s pretty simple.
On the path to finding a woman that you would like to have a relationship with, you will probably meet and date a lot of woman, and they are going to be on a spectrum: on one end of the spectrum there will be attractive, emotionally healthy, mature, intelligent woman; while in the other end of the spectrum there is going to be… possibly somebody like the chick in the exorcist.
So, if you ever run into a Linda Blair, don't wait for the head to start spinning around in front of you. As soon as shitty drama starts to come up, instead of trying to fix it, jumping in, trying to rescue her, saying things like “oh, hold to me”, “let me help out” or feeling like it’s your problem just because it’s her problem, STOP! Stop and just think: SHE'S GOT ISSUES. And that’s HER problem. It’s in HER life. SHE is responsible for that. So let HER handle that. That’s part of HER maturing process.
We are not always aware, and we could even have the best of intentions, but we can seriouslly do a lot of damage to the both the relationship, the person, and their lifes by trying to fix their problems for them, mistakenly carrying the righteous flag of “If I can just fix and solve all your problems then your life would be great, and then we’ll have a great relationship, and we'll be perfectly happy and everything will be perfect”.
You think you help, but you don't. You think you'll just make the other person happy, but you won't. What you are really doing is robbing that person you care about very much of the opportunity to mature and become a developed independent healthy emotionally-non-dependent person. And you, you sir, you have NO damn right to even try something like that. So fucking don't. Not only for them, but for you too.
