domingo, 3 de junio de 2012
Mature Love
Mature love, some insist, is a broadening, deepening experience. [But] the claim that love promotes maturity is unpersuasive without some indication that the individual would not have matured just as readily as in the absence of love. Indeed, to the extent that love fosters dependency, it may be viewed as a deterrent to maturity.
I am not asserting that the effects of love always border on the pathological. I am saying that the person who seeks love in order to obtain security will become, like the alcoholic, increasingly dependent on this source of illusory well-being. The secure person who seeks love would probably not trap himself in this way. But, would the secure person seek love at all?
-- Excerpt of the article 'This Thing Called Love,' by Lawrence Casler from 'Psychology Today' dated December 1969.
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We insist because we're right. :)
ResponderEliminarDefine maturity. Who is 100% mature? What is the criteria that makes a person emotionally mature when every one of us has a psychological blind spot?
Oh I wish I could define it. But I see it as a spectrum. You can't tell where is the threshold that turns someone into a mature person but there's definitively people more mature than others.
ResponderEliminarLa madurez no es un espectro que va de 0 a 100. Todo el mundo tiene aspectos llenos de inmadurez en su personalidad, son como blind spots, no pueden ver desde otra perspectiva cómo se están comportando, como están enfrentando una situación X. Existe gente más madura que otras en ciertos aspectos, pero no creo conocer a alguien que sea 100% maduro en todos los aspectos de su vida (si fuera así, qué aburrido sería).
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